crude and vulgar...

as most of you know i have been on dating sites, social networking sites, and a variety of other forums.  i can't say that i am always looking to meet anyone, but it never hurts to expand your circle, right?  unless it involves this trend i have noticed in the male gender that i find disturbing.  i am positive that there are women who do this same thing, but i don't experience that side.

what is it about being for the most part anonymous that gives men (and i'm sure women alike) this pass to say or suggest crude and vulgar things to strangers?  i honestly don't get it.  is it because they don't have to face the slap that would follow saying such a thing in person?  is it because this human wouldn't normally talk this way and feels they have a more open voice through written text?  or maybe this human is just looking for a quick lay and is skipping the niceties.  if it is number three, there are illegal services all over the place for this, those ladies are expecting this kind of talk. 

call me old fashion but when use the word referencing a female cat in your opening dialogue to a woman you have just crossed a line.  i tend to reply with why would you ask a complete stranger that?   i guess i feel if you are going to ask a completely inappropriate question you should be able to explain it.  i have yet to receive an intelligent answer, i suppose i should consider the source.  if this human does answer, most of the time it is i was just flirting, sorry to bother you.  are you kidding me?  when did flirting turn into an overtly sexual proposition?

before i go any farther i would like to say that i am very playful with my partner.  key word..my partner.  the person that you are supposed to be intimate and playful with.  i should mention that i am not usually that crude in my speech.  i tend to word things more romantically, as if i am reading a novel.  i have never been good with vulgar dirty talk it just feels funny on my tongue.

so here is what i think, this type of sexual dialogue is best left for someone who knows you. someone who is familiar with your personality, your humor or lack of it, the sound of your voice, and basic agenda.  when you speak this way to a stranger, a person with no prior history or context, it just comes across as creeper.  sex offender immediately pops into my brain and a giant flashing sign radiating beware is watermarked over the message.

i think it is disturbing that there seems to be no boundaries anymore.  the lines are all blurred.  i understand that the old fashioned way of courting someone is long gone, but i'm definitely not a fan of this modern version of courting.  i would rather go to chuck e. cheeses, deal with millions of unruly ratchets and eat overpriced crappy pizza weekly then have to be in the same space with these subpar humans.