Thursday, December 29, 2011

i'm taking a lover...

i am a huge fan of the show Sex in the City.  i actually wish it was still in production, so i could continue to watch it.  the characters were great, the premise was fun, and it was sheer entertainment.  i remember telling a guy friend when i was watching this series, maybe i should chuck all my morals and screw around?  my guy friend totally concured with this idea. no surprise there.

i am not in the business of seeing how many marks i can carve into my bedpost, but i will admit that having a standard is rather lonely.  i wake up alone and go to bed alone.  hit repeat a thousand times and start over.  i am in the driest desert with no oasis in sight.

casual sex is something i have never been able to wrap my head around.  i think that this might be something that is harder for women, since a good majority of us include our feelings when sharing our bodies.  you can probably exclude prostitutes and porn stars from this statement.  i have never been a prositute or a porn star so i don't really know how they view sex, but i'm guessing it is different than mine.

i had a discussion about this with my friend joe once.  his thought is everyone needs a genital handshake now and then.  after i choked, cleared my throat, and regained my composure i laughed until my sides hurt.  my laughter was met with a blank stare.  obviously we have a different view, but in a way there is some validity to this.

joe's thought reminds of having a friend with benefits.  yes i did just watch the movie, predictable but kept my attention.  it may have been the repeated scenes of a half dressed justin timberlake.  or maybe the oscar winning performances?  oh who am i kidding?  of course it was justin timberlake.  anyway, this idea is somewhat intriguing and hollywood definitely makes it look appealing, but i have learned that real life rarely imitates the big screen.

i do have a guy friend that i wouldn't mind having some benefits with.  without revealing his identity (he will know it's him if he reads this), i will give you some stats; funny as hell, sexy, smart, and has beautiful teeth.  the problem.  he has a lady in his life.  i would never interfere with that, but if he didn't have a lady you can bet your sweet bippy i would be the first in line.

so what's a moral gal like me to do?  i could never be a samantha.  having sex as a "hobby" isn't part of my plans.  i don't think i could ever be a nun.  swearing off men sounds like death, besides the convent wouldn't want me.  i guess i fall somewhere in the middle on the spectrum, lonely single girl with extra batteries.  insert wink.

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