occasionally i find myself with no kids, no plans and a yearning for a beer. this can only mean one thing i am headed to diamond knot brewery in mukilteo. i have never really been someone who enjoys going to a bar by myself, but diamond knot is very laid back. this is probably the only bar i am comfortable going to alone where i can belly up to the bar, chat with the staff and whomever i happen to be seated next to.
on my last visit i ended up sitting next to a very handsome man. we exchanged the normal small talk. i should say that this particular bar is by a ferry dock, so there are lots of patrons that stop in for a beer before catching their ferry. this establishment was also founded by a boeing employee, so there happens to be a lot of boeing employees who frequent. this also means that there are plenty of contract employees that are in town on business. needless to say it is a very eclectic group of folk that frequent diamond knot.
okay back to the fella. like i said he was a handsome man. i was curious about him. come to find out he is from east of the mountains on a business trip, he has kids, has a pear orchard and goats. i noticed he wasn't wearing a ring so i asked about a wife. yes i was putting him on the spot, but i was intrigued.
he tells me he hasn't ever been married. i have a hard time controlling my face, so i'm guessing my furrowed brow is what prompted him to keep talking. he resides with the mother of his children but they aren't married and don't have plans of marrying. i can respect that at this point it is really just a piece of paper. being the nosy gal i am i ask him if he is faithful. okay, i know it is none of my business, but he was asking me equally personal questions and i don't ever ask a question i am not willing to answer. his response i try to be. translation...NO.
really? i'm not completely naive about people straying from their committed relationships, heck i did. i guess i haven't met people who are so open about it. humans who openly live double lives. it is appalling and intriguing all at that same time. it reminds of a train wreck i can't rip myself away from it. i want to know more. why are they in a relationship if they aren't committed to the person? do they feel like they are setting a good example of a relationship for their children? besides a very exciting sex life what else do they gain from this type of arrangement?
surprisingly he was very open and candid about his lifestyle. he then turned the tables and wanted to know if this would be something i would consider. there is definitely a part of me that wishes i didn't need more than a romp, but that isn't me. i told him i'm not interested in a one night stand and i would never settle for second best. he told me i was overthinking pleasure, but i disagree. i am not overthinking i just know my limits.
at the end of the night we went our seperate ways. i had a mental fantasy about what a man like him would be like, but that is as far as that will ever play out.
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