i was skyping with shreddie this morning. i can't tell you how therapeutic that is. in the midst of our marathon conversation, boys came up. wow what a shocker, huh? not that kind of "shocker"!! come on people this is a family show. ok anyway, boys came up. i need to clarify something because my boss gave me a piece of advice the other day, "deal with men not boys" i quickly replied, "that is the worst advice ever!!" so here is the clarification, i am not dealing with actual boys, they are most definitely of age legal men, but when i say men it makes me feel old and well i am NOT old. so there we go, the boys are all over 18, are legal residents of the United States, some have kids, all have jobs, none live with their parents that i know of, for all intents and purposes they are bonafide men.
so back to shreddie, i was telling her about a fella that i have been chatting with. i seriously love interacting with people, they are so interesting and i am often intrigued by what makes people tick, who they see themselves as and if i agree with how they see themselves. i also love people who aren't afraid to ask questions, trivial to meaningful questions. someone who asks things that make you really examine who you are and what you stand for. it reminds me of an interview, but instead of getting a job that pays you are an applicant for the job of holding onto someones heart and protecting it. if you are willing to give your heart to someone, you should ask serious questions. i could learn something from this fella, he has asked me some really deep questions. some of them have been really hard to answer.
i was sharing a sampling of the questions with shreddie and told her that she was part of an answer to one of them. she told me to blog about it. i don't want to hear you tell me, i want to read it. shreddie knows that i can express myself better through written word and i think she secretly wants me to share with everyone else what i think of her. shreddie suggested that i post a question a day and answer it. this is an interesting idea and something i can definitely jump on board with.
who are some people you admire and why? i answered this with 3 people, but there are definitely more people that i admire. for instance my parents, my sister, and countless other people, but when i was sitting down to answer this question on this particular day i came up 3 peeps; bethy, shreddie and J. the first two probably aren't all that shocking, but for anyone who has been reading this or knows anything about my personal life you might find J an interesting person to admire.
Bethy: her name really isn't bethy, but this is one of the many variations of beth that we call her. i trust bethy with anything. she can read me like a book and can always tell when something is up. she gives selflessly and loves unconditionally. she has a solid, strong and loving marriage, something i hope to have in the future. i have never met anyone who accepts everyone for who they are and doesn't judge their personality, their choices, or their lifestyle. she is unwavering in her faith, extremely loyal, rejoices with you and sheds a tear with you. i wish i was more like bethy, i am so very thankful to have her in my life.
Shreddie: i think the best thing about shreddie is that what you see is what you get with her. if she were to have a conversation with the president on one day and then a grocery checker the next day about the same topic she would not sensor her language, change how she dressed or tone it down. she is shreddie; controversial at times, outrageously funny, a feminist to the core, opinionated, loud, and loyal. our friendship is solid. i can count on her for anything a slap across the face to snap out of it, a shoulder to cry on, shopping to making a dump run, anything. there are times when i wish i was as brave as shreddie.
J: i have honestly never met a man who has impacted my life in such a profound way. having him in my life has changed me forever. although the way he chooses to live his life does not work for the rest of the human race, he is steadfast in his beliefs and culture. he is probably the most brilliant person i have ever met most of the time i have no idea what he is talking about. he is extremely artistic he can string unassuming words together in an interesting way which stirs my emotions. i have so much to learn from him and am blessed with any drop of wisdom he shares.
i suppose shreddie is right, it will be nice to read a statement of admiration. what i think would be interesting is if bethy, shreddie and even J see themselves the way i see them? if the qualities that i so greatly admire and appreciate in them are the same qualities that they adore in themselves.
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