dressing the part...

i have a huge problem with the laziness of people's clothing choices.  it drives me bananas that lounge wear has become acceptable outside of your home.  lazy.  it takes just as long to put on real pants as it does pajama bottoms.  not only is it lazy, but pajama bottoms are really unflattering, you look as if you are carrying a load in your drawers.  ladies and fellas if you are looking to "hook a hottie" pajama pants are not the best option.  in the same respect if you are wanting to keep your partners attention, pajama pants are not the best option. 

the other day i went to a court proceeding for work.  i feel i dress very professionally on a daily basis, but i took extra care to be super spiffy for court.  pencil skirt, blouse, and sensible shoes the look said conservative and put together.  even though i hadn't a freaking clue of what to expect, i looked the part, a knowledgeable legal professional.

one of the witnesses, our witness mind you, had on a train wreck of an outfit.  i should preface this with she is a veteran of the legal world, being a paralegal for 20 plus years, she should really know better.  when you are a witness, your outfit should reflect your credibility.  i'm sorry but leggings (which are NOT pants, they are a layering piece best suited for persons under the age of 25) a slut tank (this is one of those under pinnings with a shelf bra), no bra (guess she figured the unsupportive shelf bra was enough, it wasn't), cardigan and white athletic tennis shoes is not a credible outfit.  she looked like she had come straight from the gym and instead of changing she threw on a cardigan to "fancy" up the ensemble.  train wreck!!

since i have mentioned the bra thing i am going to say this.  ladies, i don't care how large or how minuscule your ta-ta's are, you are required to wear a bra in public.  now i am very challenged in the breast region, nursing two children left my already small breasts in a pitiful state, but i wear a bra everyday.  wearing a bra adds shape to my poor deflated breasts, it also adds symmetry, and adds a little size to create some balance with the rest of my shape.  ladies we want our breasts to be high and tight, not drooping to our waistline.  hike those girls up with a supportive bra and your shape will be more flattering and proportioned. 

i hear all the time, it is easy for you to dress you are small, you can wear anything.  this is false.  i can't wear whatever, i have my own challenges.  i carry my weight through my hips and thighs.  i am your classic pear shape.  to combat a heavier hip one must create volume on the top, as you know i don't have my own volume naturally (recall poor deflated breasts).  through the help of pattern, detail, ruffles, and jewelry at the neck i can draw attention away from my problem area.  another way to distract from a larger hip is to keep the lower half streamlined.  so i tend to wear darker colors and less patterns on the lower half. 

dressing your body does not have to be difficult.  first figure out what works for your shape.  dress appropriately for your age.  dress the part for whatever you are doing. and for goodness sakes stop wearing your pajamas out in public.