attention whore...

i am going to make a blanket statement about women, but i don't think i am too far off.  i happen to have first hand knowledge seeing as how i am a woman.  women are attention whores.  ladies before you get all batshit crazy on me just hear me out.  i think that females; married, single, young, old, shy, boisterous, black, white or purple need, desire and crave affirmation.  affirmation that they are beautiful, desirable and wanted.  this isn't necessarily a bad thing. unless of course you are a married woman seeking out attention from all the tom, dick, and harrys. 

there is a common theme i hear from my single guy friends she seems into me, but then just disappears.  i really have no good answer to this except that women like the attention and often times don't really care where it is coming from.  a good majority of women, will accept the flattery and play along until the next guy, that captures their attention just a little more, comes along.  crummy?  absolutely, women can be very cavalier in their behavior, especially single women.

i am absolutely no exception.  a random compliment from a man is always appreciated.   there is something about catching the eye of a fella that makes me think heather, you've still got it.  those of you who know me well, know that i don't see anything spectacular about myself, i'm just the girl next door.  i'm not a christy turlington or a marilyn monroe, i'm heather bartlett somewhere in between troll and goddess.  however, as nice as the flattery is, i would prefer to be the recipient of excessive attention from just one man.  i don't need a entourage of admirers, just one. 

for the dating men and women i think we are looking for someone to WOW us.  i am not convinced that there is the exact right person, but i do think that there is a man who will meet 99.9% of the attributes that are important to me.  clearly you won't know if you've met the right person unless you interact with them, but ladies if you aren't into the guy let him know so he stops wasting his time trying to woo you.

in an effort to spread the love, the single men are just as bad as the single ladies.  i have another dating story to tell.  a couple weeks ago i went out on a date with a man.  he was charming, good conversation and kept my attention.  wasn't anything spectacular but nice.  came to the end of our evening and he kissed me.  now before i go any farther, you should know that i don't pass out kisses.  i haven't pressed my lips to another mans (except for my dad and my little man ash) since matt and i broke up.  well, this was more than a nice to meet you kiss, this was more like i'm still hungry and i'm going to retrieve your dinner kiss.  holy tongue batman.  i haven't seen him since, guess i didn't quite meet his standards in the kissing department.  *wink*