this was a first...

i feel like i've been on a dating website for E-V-E-R!!  i have had some of the weirdest interactions with complete strangers; marriage proposals, ridicule disguised at "constructive criticism", inquiries from transgender humans, intimate encounter requests from older-than-my dad men and just about anything else you can think of.  i swear these interactions wouldn't happen if i was face to face with these stellar specimens of the male gender, but as i have said before there is security in anonymity. today i am going to share my latest encounter with a complete stranger.  i have had no prior contact with this human before.

intial message:
i doubt i'm what you're looking for, i'm not the traditional single male...

i'm a 38 year old married executive at a software company.  i live and work in _______.  i'm well dressed, well spoken, polite, professional, and disease and drug free.  i'm clean cut, and groomed (manscaped - and shaved where it matters).  i'm also fixed.

to be clear, i'm not interested in changing anything at home, i love my wife and i don't intend to leave her.  i'm just looking for something new and exciting to add to my life experience.

i'm 5'10" with brown hair and eyes that change color from blue to grey to green, depending on my mood and what i'm wearing.  i can be funny and playful, or deep and serious.

at work i'm used to being in control and getting what i want, but in bed: i won't pressure anyone to do anything they don't want.  i'm a pretty low key guy.  i make friends easily.  i'm very social and i'm involved in business networking events and charity fundraising events throughout the year.

in play, i love things to be soft and slow, and i love to tease.  i like to take my time.

**there is more about how i can contact this human, but for privacy issues i will leave that part out. 

oh my goodness!  can you even believe it?  i was floored when i opened and read the message. i instantly blipped about it, which spurned a heart to heart conversation with some of my favorite blippers (keith and will).  these two fellas wanted to more about this human and asked that i respond.  i wasn't too keen on the idea, really i just wanted to delete and move on, but at their request i responded.

my message back:
so i'm curious about a couple of things.
1. does your wife know?
2. do you have an open marriage?
3. have you been successful in this approach?
4. why me?

his response back:
1. no
2. no.  we discussed the idea of an open marriage and of seeing other people a while back.  she was not interested and her words to me were "...and if you ever do, i don't want to ever know about it."
3. depends on your definition of success, suprisingly there are some people on here who aren't looking for a traditional relationship, and for whom this situation is exactly what they want.  though not all of those turn out to have any chemistry in person...etc.
4. you're cute :)

my response back:
thank you for inquiry.  i'm flattered, but you're initial instinct was correct, not really what i'm looking for.  best of luck.

so, there you go, this was a first.  for those of you who are weary about on-line dating you have good reason to be.  the on-line world is an anything goes arena, the sky is the limit.  there is something for everyone; traditional and nontraditional relationships, curious about the same sex there are those, curious about an intimate encounter with a little person, or maybe you like the heavily tatted multiple piercings human.  whatever you are looking for or curious about you can find it on any dating website. 

as for me, well i think you already know.  i've beaten this dead horse many, many times, but just in case you missed it.  i am impatiently waiting for mr. right forever.  just one man in the sea of many to share my life with.  seems like it shouldn't be that hard, but it is proving to be rather difficult.