him...

to all the single folk in the world, do you have a benchmark?  maybe a better way to phrase the question is this: is there someone you compare every potential love interest to?  maybe your benchmark is a parental figure, a religious figure, a friend, dare i say a celebrity or even an imaginary human that you are hoping to meet someday? 

i actually have this person, a real live person, in my life.  he encompasses everything i look for and desire.  much like the quote for this post, i didn't know when i met him he would become so important.  over the years i have learned that i cannot imagine a life without him in it. 

i have spent the last few years endlessly dating, measuring everyone i've met to him.  i don't go so far as to make a checks and balance type list, but mentally i compare.  so far no one has come close.  this isn't to say that i haven't met worthy men.  i'm simply saying they aren't him.

so what now?  what do you do when you realize that the man you've been looking for is already in your life?  if this were the movies, i would go to him, profess my love in some perfectly scripted short paragraph, we would embrace, share a passionate kiss and the next scene would be our wedding.  weird how real life is nothing like the movies.  sigh.

in a world where it is hard to find people you really connect with, i am forever blessed to have this man in my life.  he is my true friend, my benchmark, and who knows maybe someday he will have a more important role?  whatever the future holds he will be a permanent fixture in my life and that is all i could ever really ask for.